Well some adoption activists think family preservation is the ONLY WAY! They don’t want to CONSIDER that their suggestions are NOT applicable to all. Then they resort to belittling the efforts of others who are TRYING to care of those children in the world that NEED AND WANT A FAMILY…via ADOPTION!
I have NEVER had anything to do with Mirah. I’ve known that she and Joan/Doris are ‘on the same page’, as many of those anti adoption people are…but…NOT until Mirah stuck her nose INTO my business did I pay attention to her. That is why when it is appropriate I WILL comment on her comments.
In March 2018 I saw news article in which Mirah Riben commented on; she is an antiadoption activist. I commented on it.
Around April 20th 2018 I noted that our two comments were no longer on the news article. Good thing I kept copies of both our comments, for I feel that they DESERVE to be seen MORE. The article and the two comments speak for themselves.
http://www.dothaneagle.com/enterprise_ledger/news/kansas-man-walks-through-wiregrass-across-country-for-foster-parents/article_cce91f40-2602-11e8-b5a6-c345be8fc18f.html?fb_action_ids=10213241389567223&fb_action_types=og.comments
This is a noble and very well-intentioned attempt act and adoption helps many children in need. BUT....
Foster care is notoriously high risk and adoption - as exemplified by Mr. Koster's own experience, is also not a guarantee of a life free of abuse.
These are not the only solutions. Adoption, even when the adopters are good, caring, loving people is a solution that gives with one hand and takes with the other. It takes away a person's true identity and replaces it with a false one that states that he or she was "born to" his or her adoptive parents. This is a harsh and unnecessary price to pay for care. It takes away their heritage, erases culture, obliterates kinship ties, genealogy and vital family medical history. These are all powerful losses that have great negative impact on the lives of adopted persons and can endanger their offspring.
Why not walk instead to raise awareness of family preservation? To helping struggling families find the resources and support they need to remain intact - with assistance to do it safely for their children? Many states have found fostering mothers and their babies more cost effective with far higher success rates.
Why not walk to help find extended family for children whose parents are unable to unwilling to provide safe care? Walk to help provide funding for grandparents - aunts and uncles - to help raise their kin in need instead of placing children with strangers?
I hope that Mr. Kosters would consider these alternatives to adoption and foster care. A child in need should to have to sacrifice a life of not knowing his truth to be cared for properly and safely. It is not necessary nor in anyone's best interest to have their rights as protected under the 14th amendment taken form them without their consent and to be treated forever after as a second-class citizen with no right - in most states - to their own original, true, legitimate and accurate vital record of their birth.
Mirah Riben, Author, THE STORK MARKET: America's Multi-Billion Dollar Unregulated Adoption Industry
Gert McQueen commented March 13, 2018
Family preservation does NOT work in all cases. And actually it many cases having others ‘stick their noses in another’s life’ can cause more REAL long lasting damage! Think about that! How would YOU feel if someone (family or not) came into YOUR family/life and TOLD you how to raise your children? Or to ‘preserve’ YOUR family we will split your children up and we will raise that child but NOT the other child!
It happen to my family!
And what about step-parent adoptions? Blended families work IF others keep their noses out of it! A family member who didn’t like the fact that I was adopting my own children VIOLATED my parental rights and INTERFERED with my minor children!
It happen to me!
Mirah says… To helping struggling families find the resources and support they need to remain intact - with assistance to do it safely for their children? Many states have found fostering mothers and their babies more cost effective with far higher success rates.
To which I ask…Why NOT show us the REAL facts instead of just a statement? How many struggling families are actually REACHED and HELPED in the long term! Mirah and others like her are only interested in the so-called ‘false identity’ of adoption birth certificates. They are NOT out there doing the REAL nasty work of doing/caring for others that they tell everyone who is PRO-ADOPTION to do…namely get out there and TAKE CARE OF PEOPLE.
I would like to see more reports from these anti-adoption people about the REAL LIFE work they are doing to HELP people. What families have THEY helped? How have THEY helped them? Are they doing the grocery shopping, the babysitting, the care of the sick, the housecleaning and more?
Mirah and the others will NOT tell us or show us, because these people are NOT out there dealing with REAL PEOPLE AND THEIR REAL PROBLEMS. Instead they are on their computers fighting and arguing with GOOD people that are out there DEALING with the struggles of taking care of people in their families. Real people who just want to be LEFT ALONE to make their OWN DECISIONS about their families.
Utopian views that ANY person/agency CAN teach another to do anything BETTER are just as naïve and useless as wings on a pig! You cannot make any one do something they are either incapable of doing or just plain don’t want to. PEOPLE are imperfect creatures. Real world people have real world personalities and limitations. Real world people DON’T want to learn how to be better, in many cases they WANT to stay the way they are!
I know quite a bit about CASA, which does great work, but they are limited with the same limits that exists with ALL social services agencies and people; there are no laws or helps that will MAKE PERFECT PEOPLE.
Btw Mirah was it really worth it! Stop the BUTS…allow people to live their own lives and BUT out!end
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